Education is one of the most difficult tasks we face parents. And although there are no magic formulas, yes there are some key issues that we have to handle with ease. It’s never too early to begin to educate. These are the basic rules to ensure that your child grows up happy.
- The very young children tend to imitate all our behavior, good and bad.
- We can take advantage of daily habits like hello, behave at the table, observe the rules conduction- to acquire the right habits and gradually take responsibility.
- It is no use lecturing always the same story if their parents do what they ask.
2. Communication, dialogue, understanding
- Words, gestures, looks and expressions we use help us to know ourselves better and express what we feel.
- Therefore, even during pregnancy, we must talk to the baby.
- We must always continue communication. Talking a lot, unhurried, tell stories and let him be who we count them.
- Have you tried to ask a question that starts with “What do you think about …?” So we show that we are interested in your opinion and he will feel loved and heard.
3. Limits and discipline, without threats
- It must be taught to separate the feelings of the action. The rules must be clear and consistent and accompanied by logical explanations.
- They have to know what happens if you do not do what we ask. For example, we must make it clear that after playing has to pick up his toys.
- It is important that the child-and us-also understand that their feelings are not the problem, but the misconduct. And to them we must always set limits, because there are marketable areas and others that are not. If he refuses to go to school, we have to recognize how annoying it is sometimes early and say that we do too.
4. Let him experience even mistake
- The best way for children to explore the world is allowing them to experience things themselves. And if they are wrong, we have to be there to care for them physically and emotionally, but with limits.
- The overprotective sometimes protects us parents some fears, but not our son. If every time you fall or a blow, no matter how small is given, we are alarmed to assist him, we will be encouraging to the complaint and the ongoing comfort. We have to let them take risks.
5. Do not compare or disqualify
- We must eliminate such phrases as “learn from your brother’, ‘When are you going to be as responsible as your cousin?” Or “you’re so whiny park like that child.”
- We should not generalize and dispense with phrases like “you’re always hitting your sister” or “You never listen.”
- Sure it does many things well, but lately is behaving like a true “junk”. Each child is unique and not all act the same pace and in the same way.
- Phrases like “you can swim as good as your brother try. You’ll see” transform their distress into a smile and encourage you to achieve your goals.
6. Sharing our experiences with other parents
- It can be very useful. So, live a rebellious stage of our son, something very common at certain ages, you can stop being a source of tremendous anxiety and become simply a hard but passing phase. Phrases like “do not worry, my son was the same’, can help to relativity the “problems” and therefore get us feel better and act more relaxed.
- If we are confused, worried or do not know how to act, we can always consult a professional. We have nothing to lose.
7. We must recognize our mistakes
- We may be wrong and that does not mean we are bad parents. The important thing is to recognize mistakes and use them as a source of learning.
- A simple phrase like “sorry honey, reinforces good behavior and helps us feel good.
8. Strengthen the good things
- It is proven that positive reinforcement gestures of affection, encouragement, rewards are more effective in educating the punishment. So we must always give emotional support and let it be he who, according to his ability, solve the problems.
- Children are very sensitive and adjectives as “stupid” or “bad” cause them great harm and may negatively impact the valuation they have of themselves so.
- We must be generous with everything that makes them feel valued and loved. If you reward with touching, hugging or words like “handsome” or “ready” we are building a good self-esteem.
- As important as correct their bad behavior is to recognize and reinforce good.
9. Do not pretend to be your friends
- Although always should foster a climate of closeness and trust, that does not mean we should be best friends.
- While among children the treatment is as equals, we as parents and educators, we are located on a higher step. From there we offer our care, experience, … but also protect our standards.
- Search for all their continuing approval can be a double-edged sword,since friendship is also admiration and confidence and will find it very difficult to trust us if we can not impose.
- A good father is not one who gives up continuously and does not teach.
10. They also have emotions
- Sometimes we think only we feel upset and that children need to be happy all day. But they also have concerns.
- His emotional world is equally or more complex than ours, so it should give importance to their emotions and be aware of them. We must help our child to put full name to what you experience and feel.